Most
of us want to be successful at our jobs, whether we’re stay-at-home
moms or high-paid executives. And regardless of how you define
“success”, if you’re looking for it, you’re usually willing to sacrifice
for it.
Yet,
true success eludes most of us, because we always have the sense that
we could do more or be more or give more. The satisfaction we
anticipated feeling once we reached the pinnacle of our career simply
never came (or faded quickly). This leads to feelings of guilt or
inadequacy, which pushes us to try harder and sacrifice more to “get
there.”
Sadly,
this is often most true in the church, where, instead of experiencing
freedom from the burden to “perform well”, ministry leaders (and, as a
result, church members) immerse themselves in church commitments and
serve until they burnout. The subsequent aftermath of this overworked,
under-appreciated service too often leads to affairs, bitterness, and a
complete break from the church. If the Christian has not also lost her
faith, she will spend a significant portion of time (perhaps years)
healing from the weight that she had carried and holding back from her
next community of believers.
I
consider myself having been in ministry since the day I gave my life to
Jesus, almost 14 years ago. In our 12.5 years of marriage, my husband
and I have served in nearly every church program possible, taught
classes and led small groups, been on staff at a church, have started a
church, and are about to start another church. Outside of going on
vacations 1-3 times a year, we have never had a Sunday “off”, and have
regularly spent up to 7 hours in a church building on many a Sunday. In
many of those years, this was in addition to non-ministry jobs and
commitments.
I admit that, in the span of a life, this is really no time at all. Yet, I still think it worthy to note that we have never once felt even close to burnout.
I praise God for this! And I reflect on why this is our situation, so that we can prevent burnout from ever
entering our ministry. I also want to encourage those of you who are
leading or participating in the work of the church to invite the Holy
Spirit to reveal if you are headed towards burnout.
Later this week will begin a 4-part series on the matter of ministry burnout, including thoughts from a great mentor and longtime pastor/leader. My prayer is that we reflect on our work in the church and trust Jesus all the more to sustain us in it.
What questions do you have as you think about guarding yourself from burnout?
What experiences have you had feeling stretched too far in ministry? What advice can you give others?
I have been on the edge of burnout a lot. I think it's because a) I don't know how to say no. b) I always assume Jesus doesn't want me to say no. c) I don't know how to balance family life/ reaching out/ reaching in (discipleship). d) I get tired and overwhelmed easily. I have NO idea how to prevent this. So yay for your blog!
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